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Sep 4, 2020

When you really want to scream


Phyllis asked:

I am enraged. Fellow veterans’ mail-in medications are missing, conservatives and right-wing hate groups have joined forces to raise money for a 17-year-old racist who murdered two people, FOX News attacks professional NBA and MLB athletes for supporting BLM, plus there is a damn racist living in the White House. My art is a constant, as I need to paint each day to stay level headed. Recently, I had to defend myself after being verbally abused by a white woman, yet I was the one accused as a violent agitator. I don’t want to live in a country where I am forever seen as a third-class citizen. Help!

Dear Phyllis,

Let me start by saying your feelings of frustration, powerlessness, and anger are absolutely justified. It’s a lot to process, I know. So breathe it out. 

We have it in our heads that to be fair one must listen to both sides, but does that include subjecting ourselves to abuse and hatred? Absolutely not. The inner conflict you are experiencing is a direct result of that programming.  

But all is not hopeless. There are steps you can take to protect yourself. One of the simplest yet most challenging is to unplug from social media. It doesn’t have to be forever, and you might argue that this is the way you stay connected to family and friends, but think on this: can you filter out the negativity and fear mongering in the numerous news feeds and, yes, even from friends and family? So turn off your social media.

Two, distance yourself from people, businesses, and organizations who openly dismiss equality for BIPOC—Black Indigenous People of Color—which btw includes social media giant Facebook. Why? Let’s not forget MZ overlooked how a certain foreign adversary and other hate groups targeted Blacks to sow racial discord.

Trump thrives on sowing discord.  Redirecting your attention away from him and his antics (tweets included) will certainly ease your frustration.

These are small but very effective ways to claim back your power. Just allow yourself ample time to adapt without the social media filler until you’ve regained your equilibrium. Continue using other tools at hand to channel overflowing emotions, like your art; even a favorite play list will restore your spirits.

You are not some angry Black agitator. You’re a Black American woman, a veteran, who has the fundamental rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.  

Always envision the best.

Aug 27, 2020

White America refuses to see racism

Daryl asked:

Why do white people refuse to admit racism exists? Despite all the protests, why are we still seeing Black men brutalized? We work, we pay taxes, we contribute. What have we done to merit so much hatred? I swing from rage to soul weariness from day to day. I’m beyond exhausted.


Daryl, I understand totally. Know that you have the right to exist and what you are feeling is real. You truly are reading the room correctly.

When current events become too much to bear, it’s a sign that you need to change your routine. First, disconnect from your news source (e.g. television, social media, etc.) temporarily because this feeds your anxiety. So take a break from it and breathe.

Next, restore your balance with some self-care using the simplest techniques. What’s your favorite book? What’s your favorite song? Write down your feelings, indulge in your favorite candy (mine’s Dots), listen to your favorite song, do a dance, or perhaps go for a short walk. The goal is to bring you back to you, a reminder that you can control your actions this moment.

But do understand this: we are witnessing America in the throes of uprooting its long-standing racist attitudes towards Blacks, and many whites are resisting. In fact, you can see the push-back on full display this week at the Republican National Convention, aka the four-day racist fest, doing everything to inflame the fear to protect what they hold dear.  

It’s the biggest, ugliest monster out there, and it requires courage to face a hostile world daily.

Yet, Daryl, know that you are not alone. Even in the chaos, you can feel a measure of security. The Think Bigger affirmation cards were created with you in mind and were designed to encourage and remind you of your true worth. You, as the rest of us, are here at this moment, in whichever role, to experience and learn from the events around us.

Always envision the best.



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