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I’m Linda, and my style is to keep my blog posts short and sweet, and always insightful. My goal is to help you expand your thinking and your world, to thrive and feel good about you.


Oct 27, 2020

Seasons change and so do I


 Dear Readers,

There is so much negativity happening in our country, and I didn’t want to add to it by writing a heavy post. So, I’ve decided to talk about harvesting, that wonderful tradition that happens in the fall season. And just because we are in a pandemic, there is no reason we can’t commemorate it.  

I get it, 2020 has been hellish; a pandemic, America’s awakening to the reality that its Black citizens’ lives do matter, and to top it off this is our election year. So yes, it’s been one big ol’ yowza.  I personally experienced a wild fire at my back door, an evacuation order, and heavy smoke for weeks but through it all my journal writing has kept me sane.

Consistent journaling has built up my spiritual strength, maintained my emotional balance, and yes, even helped to keep my A1C levels in check without turning my back on my favorite candy. I have been able to refinance my home (watch for that one in another post), maintain my blog, create new products, and forge new business alliances.

What about you? Did you perhaps discover a hidden talent? Find a new career? Enjoy a new creative outlet? Whatever it is, I would love to hear about it.

Always envision the best.

Sep 29, 2020

Will you join me?

 

I always try to remain positive in the face of racism, but like you I experience days when I am saddened and so very frustrated. My heart aches for Breonna Taylor and for every Black person who was murdered by police officers. But I will not give up hope nor will I stop believing in the millions of Americans, Black and white, who are working toward equality for all of the citizens of America.

For over thirty years, I have nursed the concept behind the Think Bigger cards, inspirations that define the best selves of Blacks and whites. I designed cards for Blacks to help rebuild your self-esteem that has been worn down by systematic racism, and those created for Whites are meant to widen your mind and heart and the basics of sharing.

I’m so glad my cards are finally here because their messages are so valuable. They uplift each other and calm fears.  The timing couldn’t be better, wouldn’t you say?

We may be right in the middle of chaos that grows alarmingly every day, yet I’m convinced we’re right we’re supposed to be. Will you have the courage to let go of our outdated race narrative?

Always envision the best.

Sep 4, 2020

When you really want to scream

 

Phyllis asked:

I am enraged. Fellow veterans’ mail-in medications are missing, conservatives and right-wing hate groups have joined forces to raise money for a 17-year-old racist who murdered two people, FOX News attacks professional NBA and MLB athletes for supporting BLM, plus there is a damn racist living in the White House. My art is a constant, as I need to paint each day to stay level headed. Recently, I had to defend myself after being verbally abused by a white woman, yet I was the one accused as a violent agitator. I don’t want to live in a country where I am forever seen as a third-class citizen. Help!


Dear Phyllis,

Let me start by saying your feelings of frustration, powerlessness, and anger are absolutely justified. It’s a lot to process, I know. So breathe it out. 

We have it in our heads that to be fair one must listen to both sides, but does that include subjecting ourselves to abuse and hatred? Absolutely not. The inner conflict you are experiencing is a direct result of that programming.  

But all is not hopeless. There are steps you can take to protect yourself. One of the simplest yet most challenging is to unplug from social media. It doesn’t have to be forever, and you might argue that this is the way you stay connected to family and friends, but think on this: can you filter out the negativity and fear mongering in the numerous news feeds and, yes, even from friends and family? So turn off your social media.

Two, distance yourself from people, businesses, and organizations who openly dismiss equality for BIPOC—Black Indigenous People of Color—which btw includes social media giant Facebook. Why? Let’s not forget MZ overlooked how a certain foreign adversary and other hate groups targeted Blacks to sow racial discord.

Trump thrives on sowing discord.  Redirecting your attention away from him and his antics (tweets included) will certainly ease your frustration.

These are small but very effective ways to claim back your power. Just allow yourself ample time to adapt without the social media filler until you’ve regained your equilibrium. Continue using other tools at hand to channel overflowing emotions, like your art; even a favorite play list will restore your spirits.

You are not some angry Black agitator. You’re a Black American woman, a veteran, who has the fundamental rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness.  

Always envision the best.

Aug 27, 2020

White America refuses to see racism



Daryl asked:

Why do white people refuse to admit racism exists? Despite all the protests, why are we still seeing Black men brutalized? We work, we pay taxes, we contribute. What have we done to merit so much hatred? I swing from rage to soul weariness from day to day. I’m beyond exhausted.

 

Daryl, I understand totally. Know that you have the right to exist and what you are feeling is real. You truly are reading the room correctly.

When current events become too much to bear, it’s a sign that you need to change your routine. First, disconnect from your news source (e.g. television, social media, etc.) temporarily because this feeds your anxiety. So take a break from it and breathe.

Next, restore your balance with some self-care using the simplest techniques. What’s your favorite book? What’s your favorite song? Write down your feelings, indulge in your favorite candy (mine’s Dots), listen to your favorite song, do a dance, or perhaps go for a short walk. The goal is to bring you back to you, a reminder that you can control your actions this moment.

But do understand this: we are witnessing America in the throes of uprooting its long-standing racist attitudes towards Blacks, and many whites are resisting. In fact, you can see the push-back on full display this week at the Republican National Convention, aka the four-day racist fest, doing everything to inflame the fear to protect what they hold dear.  

It’s the biggest, ugliest monster out there, and it requires courage to face a hostile world daily.

Yet, Daryl, know that you are not alone. Even in the chaos, you can feel a measure of security. The Think Bigger affirmation cards were created with you in mind and were designed to encourage and remind you of your true worth. You, as the rest of us, are here at this moment, in whichever role, to experience and learn from the events around us.

Always envision the best.







Aug 18, 2020

Labels are a fact of life

 
 
Heather asked:

Ever since the BLM movement really gained traction this year, the term “white person” feels more and more accusatory and rude; almost like I’m being attacked personally. Not every white person is racist. But I feel like I’m being lumped in with the rest of them. There’s got to be a better way to discuss this.


I’m glad you brought this up, Heather. Unfortunately, this is the hard truth: There is no special formula, no magical wand that will ease your discomfort when discussing race or racism.  However, you can be better prepared the next time you have a race discussion or other experience once you understand the difference between “white people” as a reference to the structure of whiteness and that of a personal reference to you a person who may be white.

Generally, the term “white people” refers to the institution of whiteness, which has been the bar that everyone else has had to measure against.  This is what we all live with. On the other hand, I can also understand that you wouldn’t want to be grouped with the bad apples, right? Just keep in mind this one important point: Blacks have lived with labels for centuries. Those labels have changed over time, but the fact remains no matter how degrading they were then and still are, it’s something Blacks have been forced to accept without exception.  

I strongly suspect the reason why you feel so prickly when you hear “white people” is because this is the first time ever that whites collectively have an inkling of what a label feels like. So, the way I see it Heather, you have a choice; learn to tell the difference between “white people” and you, or deny that you have any part in the white consciousness. Neither choice is comfortable. Yet only one will guarantee balanced growth. Your single question shows how a willing heart simply needs a little nudge toward further introspection.

Always envision the best.

Aug 10, 2020

Don't just sit there! Start journaling

 



Shay asked:

I’m Black, and all my life I have been coping with race issues. I’m frustrated and drained emotionally. I need a boost. Got any suggestions?


Shay, I hear you, and yes, coping with race issues is exhausting. So I’m going to share with you my number one, full-proof technique that I guarantee will alter you mood in five minutes flat—journal writing. Not convinced? That’s okay, but I’m confident that this can help you find joy again, bring that smile back on your face, and put a little pep in your step.

When you put pen to paper, you create an intention to search, expose, and triumph over any experience for your benefit. Begin with the “I feel…” statement, jotting down what immediately comes to your mind. Five minutes is all you need until you get more comfortable with the process.

Journal writing is an excellent activity to voice and sort through a host of feelings in a safe and private forum. You will discover the many ways you censure, dismiss, and silent yourself (similar to how our society ignores the BIPOC—Black Indigenous Person of Color). Relief and release comes once you’ve waded through the jumble of emotions, I promise. Envision the best.

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