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I’m Linda, and my style is to keep my blog posts short and sweet, and always insightful. My goal is to help you expand your thinking and your world, to thrive and feel good about you.


in racism

Sep 29, 2020

Will you join me?

 

I always try to remain positive in the face of racism, but like you I experience days when I am saddened and so very frustrated. My heart aches for Breonna Taylor and for every Black person who was murdered by police officers. But I will not give up hope nor will I stop believing in the millions of Americans, Black and white, who are working toward equality for all of the citizens of America.

For over thirty years, I have nursed the concept behind the Think Bigger cards, inspirations that define the best selves of Blacks and whites. I designed cards for Blacks to help rebuild your self-esteem that has been worn down by systematic racism, and those created for Whites are meant to widen your mind and heart and the basics of sharing.

I’m so glad my cards are finally here because their messages are so valuable. They uplift each other and calm fears.  The timing couldn’t be better, wouldn’t you say?

We may be right in the middle of chaos that grows alarmingly every day, yet I’m convinced we’re right we’re supposed to be. Will you have the courage to let go of our outdated race narrative?

Always envision the best.

Aug 27, 2020

White America refuses to see racism



Daryl asked:

Why do white people refuse to admit racism exists? Despite all the protests, why are we still seeing Black men brutalized? We work, we pay taxes, we contribute. What have we done to merit so much hatred? I swing from rage to soul weariness from day to day. I’m beyond exhausted.

 

Daryl, I understand totally. Know that you have the right to exist and what you are feeling is real. You truly are reading the room correctly.

When current events become too much to bear, it’s a sign that you need to change your routine. First, disconnect from your news source (e.g. television, social media, etc.) temporarily because this feeds your anxiety. So take a break from it and breathe.

Next, restore your balance with some self-care using the simplest techniques. What’s your favorite book? What’s your favorite song? Write down your feelings, indulge in your favorite candy (mine’s Dots), listen to your favorite song, do a dance, or perhaps go for a short walk. The goal is to bring you back to you, a reminder that you can control your actions this moment.

But do understand this: we are witnessing America in the throes of uprooting its long-standing racist attitudes towards Blacks, and many whites are resisting. In fact, you can see the push-back on full display this week at the Republican National Convention, aka the four-day racist fest, doing everything to inflame the fear to protect what they hold dear.  

It’s the biggest, ugliest monster out there, and it requires courage to face a hostile world daily.

Yet, Daryl, know that you are not alone. Even in the chaos, you can feel a measure of security. The Think Bigger affirmation cards were created with you in mind and were designed to encourage and remind you of your true worth. You, as the rest of us, are here at this moment, in whichever role, to experience and learn from the events around us.

Always envision the best.







Aug 18, 2020

Labels are a fact of life

 
 
Heather asked:

Ever since the BLM movement really gained traction this year, the term “white person” feels more and more accusatory and rude; almost like I’m being attacked personally. Not every white person is racist. But I feel like I’m being lumped in with the rest of them. There’s got to be a better way to discuss this.


I’m glad you brought this up, Heather. Unfortunately, this is the hard truth: There is no special formula, no magical wand that will ease your discomfort when discussing race or racism.  However, you can be better prepared the next time you have a race discussion or other experience once you understand the difference between “white people” as a reference to the structure of whiteness and that of a personal reference to you a person who may be white.

Generally, the term “white people” refers to the institution of whiteness, which has been the bar that everyone else has had to measure against.  This is what we all live with. On the other hand, I can also understand that you wouldn’t want to be grouped with the bad apples, right? Just keep in mind this one important point: Blacks have lived with labels for centuries. Those labels have changed over time, but the fact remains no matter how degrading they were then and still are, it’s something Blacks have been forced to accept without exception.  

I strongly suspect the reason why you feel so prickly when you hear “white people” is because this is the first time ever that whites collectively have an inkling of what a label feels like. So, the way I see it Heather, you have a choice; learn to tell the difference between “white people” and you, or deny that you have any part in the white consciousness. Neither choice is comfortable. Yet only one will guarantee balanced growth. Your single question shows how a willing heart simply needs a little nudge toward further introspection.

Always envision the best.

Jul 24, 2020

Supporting others doesn't cost a dime




Tony asked:

I initially supported Black Lives Matter but watching their destructive behavior in Portland, Oregon, and the toppling of confederate statues is causing me to question my support. What’s up?



Tony, change is often uncomfortable.

The Black Lives Matter movement exposed America’s systemic racism toward its Black citizens, resulting in an enormous shift in consciousness that has shaken our foundation and can be felt around the world. Emotions are overflowing; anger over injustice is at an all-time high. Where does all this energy go? Into protests, demonstrations, and in extreme cases, violence. Of course, loss of life and property is never acceptable. Yet destruction of property can be viewed as a symbolic tearing down of old beliefs—of what doesn’t work anymore— just as the removal of confederate statues is symbolic of the tearing down of structures that reinforce racism.

Lastly, try viewing Black Lives Matter as a call for full equality and fairness for Black Americans instead of an aggressive organization acting in ways you don’t agree with and that make you uncomfortable.

Jun 23, 2020

Make Good Choices




Hello, and welcome to Affirmatively You. I’m Linda, its creator and host, where I affirm each and every day the positive potential of Blacks and Whites. My style is to keep my blog posts short and sweet, and always insightful. My goal is to help you expand your thinking and your world, to thrive and feel good about you. 

Whew, 2020 is not for the faint of heart. It is June 2020, and the United States of America is kinda (sorta) easing out of a global pandemic while recognizing and admitting—finally!—centuries of systematic racism does exist.

So how are you navigating these challenging times? Do you agree with the potential to reform America? I do hope so because my platform will focus on new avenues to explore with opportunities to uplift yourself and others and to grow emotionally and spiritually.

Can you imagine what you might achieve by choosing a new, more inclusive lane? Absolute magic!

Always envision the best,

Linda

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