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I’m Linda, and my style is to keep my blog posts short and sweet, and always insightful. My goal is to help you expand your thinking and your world, to thrive and feel good about you.

Aug 27, 2020

White America refuses to see racism

Daryl asked:

Why do white people refuse to admit racism exists? Despite all the protests, why are we still seeing Black men brutalized? We work, we pay taxes, we contribute. What have we done to merit so much hatred? I swing from rage to soul weariness from day to day. I’m beyond exhausted.


Daryl, I understand totally. Know that you have the right to exist and what you are feeling is real. You truly are reading the room correctly.

When current events become too much to bear, it’s a sign that you need to change your routine. First, disconnect from your news source (e.g. television, social media, etc.) temporarily because this feeds your anxiety. So take a break from it and breathe.

Next, restore your balance with some self-care using the simplest techniques. What’s your favorite book? What’s your favorite song? Write down your feelings, indulge in your favorite candy (mine’s Dots), listen to your favorite song, do a dance, or perhaps go for a short walk. The goal is to bring you back to you, a reminder that you can control your actions this moment.

But do understand this: we are witnessing America in the throes of uprooting its long-standing racist attitudes towards Blacks, and many whites are resisting. In fact, you can see the push-back on full display this week at the Republican National Convention, aka the four-day racist fest, doing everything to inflame the fear to protect what they hold dear.  

It’s the biggest, ugliest monster out there, and it requires courage to face a hostile world daily.

Yet, Daryl, know that you are not alone. Even in the chaos, you can feel a measure of security. The Think Bigger affirmation cards were created with you in mind and were designed to encourage and remind you of your true worth. You, as the rest of us, are here at this moment, in whichever role, to experience and learn from the events around us.

Always envision the best.

Aug 18, 2020

Labels are a fact of life

Heather asked:

Ever since the BLM movement really gained traction this year, the term “white person” feels more and more accusatory and rude; almost like I’m being attacked personally. Not every white person is racist. But I feel like I’m being lumped in with the rest of them. There’s got to be a better way to discuss this.

I’m glad you brought this up, Heather. Unfortunately, this is the hard truth: There is no special formula, no magical wand that will ease your discomfort when discussing race or racism.  However, you can be better prepared the next time you have a race discussion or other experience once you understand the difference between “white people” as a reference to the structure of whiteness and that of a personal reference to you a person who may be white.

Generally, the term “white people” refers to the institution of whiteness, which has been the bar that everyone else has had to measure against.  This is what we all live with. On the other hand, I can also understand that you wouldn’t want to be grouped with the bad apples, right? Just keep in mind this one important point: Blacks have lived with labels for centuries. Those labels have changed over time, but the fact remains no matter how degrading they were then and still are, it’s something Blacks have been forced to accept without exception.  

I strongly suspect the reason why you feel so prickly when you hear “white people” is because this is the first time ever that whites collectively have an inkling of what a label feels like. So, the way I see it Heather, you have a choice; learn to tell the difference between “white people” and you, or deny that you have any part in the white consciousness. Neither choice is comfortable. Yet only one will guarantee balanced growth. Your single question shows how a willing heart simply needs a little nudge toward further introspection.

Always envision the best.

Aug 10, 2020

Don't just sit there! Start journaling


Shay asked:

I’m Black, and all my life I have been coping with race issues. I’m frustrated and drained emotionally. I need a boost. Got any suggestions?

Shay, I hear you, and yes, coping with race issues is exhausting. So I’m going to share with you my number one, full-proof technique that I guarantee will alter you mood in five minutes flat—journal writing. Not convinced? That’s okay, but I’m confident that this can help you find joy again, bring that smile back on your face, and put a little pep in your step.

When you put pen to paper, you create an intention to search, expose, and triumph over any experience for your benefit. Begin with the “I feel…” statement, jotting down what immediately comes to your mind. Five minutes is all you need until you get more comfortable with the process.

Journal writing is an excellent activity to voice and sort through a host of feelings in a safe and private forum. You will discover the many ways you censure, dismiss, and silent yourself (similar to how our society ignores the BIPOC—Black Indigenous Person of Color). Relief and release comes once you’ve waded through the jumble of emotions, I promise. Envision the best.

Aug 3, 2020

Staying spontaneous in a pandemic

Terri asked:

I’m so glad we are addressing race in a way we never have before. But it’s the pandemic that leaves me feeling drained, overwhelmed and even depressed. I use to be so free and spontaneous. What can I do to get some of that old me back?

Terri, living in a pandemic demands that you pay attention to details. Everything must be planned and scheduled, effectively curbing any spontaneity that would normally bring a sense of freedom and happy attitudes to our days.

In a lot of ways, we’ve ground to a halt, and we’re feeling the chafe. We’re all looking for new ways to entertain ourselves, to keep us busy while maintaining our sanity. How can we bring spontaneity back into our everyday existence? Or at least, what can I do to make me feel like I’m indulging my need to be impulsive, instead of grabbing the keys and heading to somewhere nonessential? What could possibly be the upside of this COVID pandemic?

One thing COVID has taught me is to approach things differently; my outlook, my attitudes, my routines. That includes tweaking how we do spontaneous.

Can I see evidence of it around me? Actually, I can. I can see it every day reflected back at me in the beauty and comfort of my garden, my property, and inside my home.

The relaxing space I call home with its light-filled rooms and cheery colors, remind me that it was spontaneity, with a bit of planning and scheduling, was the driving force that created my surroundings. Instead of running out the door for an impromptu meet up with friends, I focused on improving my surroundings. Or tried a new recipe. Or added a bird feeder in the yard.

I’m viewing impulsivity in a new, creative way; a COVID way of living in the moment. Do yourself a favor, and stop looking for your life to go back to the way it was. And that’s plenty spontaneous for now.



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